Busy Little Bees

Wowza! James and I have been super busy these last few weeks. From going down to Utah and trying to get our home fixed up and pretty on the outside. We have felt like we have been running around with our heads falling off ha! It also doesn't help that James and I both have recently been sick. YUCK! But hopefully things will slow down a bit .. especially now that (maybe) the weather is looking more positive and warm. Hope we don't have anymore snow ha ha WHAT THE HECK!

The beginning of the month James brother Brandon finally married his sweet wife Carly! It was a beautiful sealing in the Provo, Utah temple. They are perfect for each other. Look how happy they look! We are so excited to have Carly be apart of our family now.

Their wedding day was beautiful! It matched the wonderful dresses and ties that Carly picked out! I can't wait to see their wedding pictures and to have one hanging in our home with all of the family! WOO!

When we have had a few minutes to relax you can find James and Miss Maggie relaxing in Grandpa and Grandmas hammock. Yes, Maggie loves the hammock it is pretty funny! She is such a cute pup and we are so lucky to have her. 

With James and I being sick our animals sure have noticed. They have been cuddling us like crazy. Especially our non cuddly kitty Ollie Popsicle. 

And then we have our super cuddly Maggie puppy. She really is one of the best dogs ever. So loving. In fact .. she is cuddling me right now as I write this blog post ha ha. 

James and I LOVE pizza so it is no shocker that our new favorite snack or meal has been homemade bagel bites! They are so easy to make and delicious! Better than buying the frozen ones. Plus we can add fresh toppings and make them just how we like them. If you want a recipe let me know in the comments below!

We thought Spring had finally hit .. so we decided to plant our flowerbed and pots. Only to have a hard frost hit! Thankfully I brought the pots inside and the flowerbed was protected because everything for the most part survived! And now our pots are in full bloom and look so full and pretty. In a coming up blog post I will post an updated picture of everything!

And lastly, James and I finally did something touristy in Idaho that we have wanted to do since we first moved up here. We visited the Museum of Clean! Which is owned and run by my employer! So that was pretty neat-o. Not everyday you get to say that you went to your works museum.

It was a lot of fun and very interesting. We are hoping to go back soon and hopefully will be able to take the nieces and nephew because we know they would have a ball and find it so interesting! If you are ever in the Pocatello, Idaho area make sure to stop by this awesome museum you won't regret it.


Adventures of The Mr. & The Mrs.

James and I recently celebrated our 4 year anniversary! The Mr. took a few days off of work so we could have some us time. It was wonderful having him home and being able to spend so much time together. Sure do love The Mr. 

 We had the wonderful opportunity to tour the newly updated Idaho Falls LDS Temple. It was even more special because we had such great company! Thanks to James grandparents and his great aunt and uncle. This temple is so special to me! It is also so gorgeous. Absolutely love it. 

I mean ... BEAUTIFUL right?! I can't wait until this Temple is open again.

After the open house we headed to a little dive to grab a bite to eat. This place doesn't look like much but it is one of the BEST delicious places ever! It is also super cheap so that might just make it taste a million times better ha! I was so excited to be able to show this place to James finally. He has heard me talk about it for months! I was super glad that he enjoyed it as much as I do. I'm sure we will be back soon .. it is well worth the drive!  

The next day James and I decided to make it a "work in the yard" day! It was nice to finally have a full day to get our yard looking great. {I'll post pictures of that later!} We updated our flowerbeds and they look so pretty now! I can't wait to show you all. But as you can tell from the picture above .. we got A LOT of mulch ha! Don't worry it wasn't all for us.

It was a busy two days but I am so grateful I was able to spend it with James. I sure do love that man! Here is to many, many more years of busy days together.


Target VS Walmart {Beauty Boxes}

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4 years.

Wow! I can't believe it has already been four years since the Mr. and I got married! Time has flown on by. These last four years have had their ups and downs, but .. I am so glad I got to go through them with James. I can't wait for the many, many more ups and downs we are going to have! I'm so grateful I have James by my side, I couldn't ask for anyone better.  I love you so much James! You truly are the best thing to ever happen to me. I thought since today is our four year anniversary it would be fun to share with you all some of my most favorite pictures / memories that I have of The Mr. and I! I sure hope you enjoy!

Fun fact ... James and I took our engagement pictures twice! We took some indoors and some outdoors. I personally loved this one the best ... BUT did not use it as part of our announcement. WHAT?! Weird right?!

Instead went with this one. Although I do like this one .. we do look pretty cute! I picked this one because I wanted James to have a (small) say in our wedding planning .. ha ha! Just kidding he had a lot of say if he wanted to. But I knew he would love it if our engagement was us wearing BYU t-shirts. So there you have it ... we went with the COUGS! Sometimes I regret this decision but oh well, it made him happy and that was important!

This picture wasn't takes by our wedding photographer ... (he actually missed us coming out of the temple ... WHOOPS!) But thankfully my good friend Jenn captured this moment! Thanks girl! It has turned into one of my most favorite wedding day pictures. And that is saying A LOT because I don't normally like kissing (PDA GROSS!) pictures but hey .. it's somewhat cute aye? 

BUT ... this wedding picture trumps them all! I love how bright and pretty it is. And the fact that I look skinny and so young. *tear* where did my youth go! ha ha. The silly part is ... I don't have this picture hung up ANYWHERE in my home .. WHAT THE HECK! Guess I might need to change that one. But beside the point, this is my favorite picture. Well, all of them of us are going to be my favorite ...

James and I did a smaller honeymoon because a few months later we were going to Disneyland for a family reunion! So we figured save our money so we could go there. But we had A LOT of fun in St. George! We went bowling, to the temple, on a few tours and even ate at a lot of really yummy places. The best part ... was being together and FINALLY being married and not having to say goodnight / goodbye to each other at the end of the day! Ha!

Going to Disneyland was the best decision we made! It was a BLAST! We would like to go back again .. maybe our five year? *hint hint ...*

 After a year of marriage James and I made the biggest decision of our married life. We left Utah and moved to Idaho to house sit for his grandparents while they were on their mission. Not only did we get to house sit but we got to take car of  Mr. Max! Who I adopted as my own and loved him like he was my child. We had Max for about a year before he suddenly passed away. It broke my heart terribly! But thankfully I had James there to comfort me and James and me to comfort him. We still miss Max to this day but we were blessed to have him for a little while. Thanks for sharing Grandma and Grandpa!

Here in Idaho we experienced our first Christmas away from family ... it was tough but it was also nice to be able to celebrate with each other and enjoy the holiday! Sadly James had to work but we made it work out just fine! It was a wonderful Christmas just like they always are! James and I both LOVE Christmas especially decorating for it.

 Up here in Idaho we have taken a lot of family pictures. (every 6 months or so ..) Thankfully James is a good sport! I just want to capture moments and make sure we have enough to watch ourselves grow. Belly wise, age you know all that good stuff! This was the first family picture we took after we got our Miss Maggie girl!

And speaking of family pictures ... this one is my ALL time FAVORITE! I think we look so, so cute! I love this picture. And I can honestly say it is my favorite picture of the two of us! I love it!

We have done a lot together these last four years and it has been a lot of fun. Of course we've been to a ton of BYU games .. because you know ... it is James and he LOVES BYU maybe almost as much as me, if not more. ha ha TOTALLY kidding I know he loves me more but BYU is a close second. ha ha. 

And we have celebrated lots of holidays together. And of course tortured our poor animals by dressing them up! But what are parents for right?! (Yes I consider our animals our children .. Don't judge me ...) 

It's been fun these last four years! From getting married, going on a lot of family vacations, moving to another state, getting a dog and not just one but two cats (you know you love them James!) buying our first home together and our first car together! I can't wait to see what another year of marriage will bring us. Maybe another dog? ha!

I love you so much James. Thanks for putting up with me and my crazy ideas! You are the best friend and husband a girl could ask for. Here's to many more years my love!


Emotions Of Infertility

When going through a struggle or as some say a trial you experience a lot of emotions. I personally have experienced difficult trials in my life. I don't share these with others because I choose to hide my feelings and the things I've been going through. But .. eventually .. you get to a breaking point. Where you can't do it anymore and you find yourself fighting through the tears. After going through several serious trials in my life, I have finally reached the point where it is too hard for me to handle any longer. I'm going through waves of emotions and trying daily to work them out. One of the ways that helps me best is talking things out. Which is extremely hard for me to do. Again, I like to bottle things up and deal with it by myself.  I don't like to bring people into my problems because I don't want to ruin their day or have them worry about me. But this is just my personality type. Going through all this infertility stuff has made me reach my breaking point. It is getting harder everyday to handle this by myself. So today, I felt that if I talked about my emotions I have felt through my infertility journey, maybe it could help me, or even others who are on this journey also. I want them to know that they are not alone, that it is okay to feel the way they are feeling. I have made a list of the emotions I am feeling the strongest to help. So bare with me as this is going to be a longer post. You might want to grab a snack or drink. ha ha. If you don't care to read on that is totally fine! This isn't for everyone and I don't expect anyone to read this. Just a heads up, these are not in any specific order. As always, if you have any questions, concerns or thoughts please feel free to leave a comment below!

This is something hard for me to face. I feel guilty on a daily bases. Whether it is something from the past or something in the present. I feel guilty as charged, for my feelings, actions, and thoughts. So much guilt builds up inside me; That it causes more emotions to add onto the feeling of being guilty. I feel that it is all my fault that James and I are going through this infertility journey. Guilty for feeling so down in the dumps. I feel the guilt every time I find myself comparing my life to someone else's, because I know better than that. But my questions are, how do you not feel guilty, how do you work through this, how do you get to the point where you know it is okay to feel this way? That yes, they are going through something difficult but SO ARE YOU! It breaks my heart every time I think about how much guilt I carry around. This is something I am trying my best to deal with, learn from, and work through. It is very difficult though. To be completely honest, I even feel so guilty (a) for admitting this and (b) for writing this blog post. This is just one of the many emotions I am dealing with, but it plays such a big part in my life, and with all the other emotions. You will probably see the guilt throughout this entire post. And I am sorry about that even though I shouldn't be. The guilt is so real and very painful. I'm not sure how I am supposed to live my life feeling guilty all the time. It doesn't feel normal. Some days I don't even know why I have the pit of guilt in my stomach. Am I the only one who feels like this? Am I a weirdo for being this way? Because it sure feels like it. Having all this guilt built up inside me is not a fun way to live. A daily struggle, but it is something I will continue to fight through and work on.

I have never felt so lonely before. Yes, I know I am not alone. I am surrounded by millions of people who love and care about me, BUT that does not change anything. I feel so isolated, like I am the only person alive in this world. It is so confusing how you could have so much love and support, but feel completely alone and detached from the world. I feel like a robot going through each day. Almost as if living is a chore. I am so alone, I don't feel like I can express my feelings, like no one is there. Loneliness is the worst part about this journey. Feeling alone but understanding that you're not, really eats me up inside. Again, this plays into my guilt because why do I feel so lonely when I am not? Along with the loneliness, people have told me to pray and ask for help. To be honest even with my Heavenly Father I know he is there, that he loves me without a doubt; but I feel alone, like he isn't listening to me or like he isn't there. Because why should he worry or care about my silly feelings? I don't feel like when I pray to him that he answers my prayers; because they are not being answered the way I want them to. But I also don't feel the love and comfort from him like I know many others do. That makes me feel even more alone. I feel pathetic for feeling this way, and not having the faith in him. Often, I have even caught myself saying he just doesn't care about me, or that my situation isn't important enough. I feel alone in this infertility journey, and in this world full of people. I just don't know what to do to help me feel not alone anymore.

Wow, I never realized until recently how angry I am just in general. I am angry at myself, life, my Heavenly Father, James, people's innocent comments. I don't know why all the sudden I have become so angry with life! I'm angry at the situation James and I are in, I'm angry that I have all these feelings and I'm angry that I am so depressed. Often, I ask why is this happening to me, haven't I been through enough already? I don't feel like I am strong enough to face these trials anymore and that makes me ANGRY. It just makes me angrier and angrier because I don't know why I am so angry and mad at the world. The saddest part is when people try and help it makes me angry because I feel like they don't understand so they shouldn't be trying to give me advice, or trying to help at all! They should just keep their comments to themselves. I'm just an angry person these days. I'm even angry for being angry. I often find myself snapping at James or my animals for things that shouldn't make me upset. I easily get annoyed with people, situations and just life and it sets me off and makes me mad and resentful. Anger isn't something I am used to living with. I tend to forgive quickly and move on. But this trial has made it impossible (it feels like it at least) to forgive people for their innocent comments, or my own husband for silly things he doesn't even know he is doing. I am so angry at myself for letting my emotions get the best of me and for letting them control my every day. The anger is real, and I need to find a way to release it without hurting people with my attitude towards life. The worst part of my anger is the fact that I am angry at my Heavenly Father. Why can't I seem to find the faith in him, in this trial he has put before me? Why can't I forgive him, and be okay with this difficult trial. It hurts my heart. The other thing that hurts my heart is being unable to forgive myself and allow me to heal from all this hurt. It angers me that I have become so selfish and tied up in the all about me, and what ifs. Being angry isn't me, and it definitely isn't the person I want to become; I don't like angry people, so why would I want to become one of them?

I'm familiar with depression, I see it every day. I've struggled with depression for a while. I've been fighting depression for a long time, and recently I figured out I just can't fight it off anymore. I thought I was strong enough, could to it myself. I've done so in the past, it's usually just off and on, so why would this time be any different? About a month ago, it was pointed out to me by a few people that I wasn't acting like myself. It made me really take a look at myself and realize that I truly wasn't me any longer. And ever since that moment it seems I have lost the spark in me to even want to fight this depression anymore. Okay, that might not be completely true, I hate feeling this way, so I haven't lost all hope. But it is a fight every day to not be depressed and it is a fight against the world, but worst of all it is a daily fight with myself. The depression has gotten so bad that I think of it as a win when I can get out of bed, eat, and sit on the couch. Thankfully I have my pets who require me to take care of them, so every day I know that I have to get out of bed, and I have to fight this depression. But honestly, it has gotten worse, I won't lie about that. I'm finding it harder and harder every day to put on that "happy face" and go about my day. Every day at one point or another I find myself crying and I have no idea why. The worst part about this depression is that I don't know why I am feeling this way. It is more than this infertility stuff but, I can't figure out what else is triggering this terrible depression. I feel horrible that poor James has to put up with me and go through this with me; And I know it hurts him because he doesn't know how to help me. Unfortunately, I don't even know how to help myself. Next month I turn twenty five and this is the first time that I have ever had a hard time turning a certain age. For me, I feel as if I haven't done anything with my life, or accomplished anything. It depresses me and I am dreading my birthday. To be completely honest, I just want to curl up in a ball and cry. But again, I am trying to fight all these feelings that come along with depression. 

It is so hard to find happiness when you have millions of feelings, fighting through depression, and feel completely lost in the world. Like I mentioned above it is a struggle and a fight within myself. So far, I haven't been able to completely figure this one out. But I am able to notice moments that make me feel happy. I know that there is still hope for me at having happiness again. Being around my family and hearing from them daily has been a huge help to make me happier. Having a wonderful husband who loves and supports me, lets me cry on his shoulder without questioning things. Has helped me in my healing process and the process in becoming my happy self. Having a wonderful best friend who is there for me always, and seems to know what to say. Having my animals and being surrounded by them daily brings me much happiness. By remembering all of this helps me to know that there is happiness out there. I just need to find it, remember it, and fight through this. I need to also remember that when I do have those happy moments, that there is nothing wrong with being happy. That I have every right to be happy and enjoy the moments of happiness. Which is much easier said than done. But I am a fighter and I will fight for my happiness. I deserve it just as much as everyone else. So here is to fighting every day to be happy and to smile more often. 

You are probably thinking pressure? Yes! Every day I feel some sort of pressure not necessarily from people,but in some cases yes people too. Some examples of pressure I might feel are caused by me telling myself that I need to grow up, this is part of life, or that I am not good enough. That nobody cares that I need to just handle this. It is pressure from me that I need to be better than myself and current situation and that I am "just acting like a baby." I'm feeling pressured by myself every day to fight through this depression. Other examples of some pressure I might feel come from others, telling me to not cry or to be happy. Because it is easy. Some have told me that I am the reason I feel this way, that I am doing it to myself. This is so hard to explain the pressure I feel almost every day. I am just feeling pressured to do things that I don't necessarily want to do. And almost like I am being taken advantage of. Which brings me back to feeling guilty for feeling "pressured and taken advantage of." But again, this is a hard emotion to explain, but it is still there.

All of these emotions are overwhelming, but it has been very refreshing to list them one by one. This blog post has helped me feel a little better inside .. helping me figure out how I truly am feeling. I know that I have many more emotions that I am personally feeling but I don't have the energy right now to continue on with this post, so I have decided to make this post into two parts so I can get the best results for myself. It also gives you all a little break to go to the bathroom or take a nap. ha ha. Before I completely end this post I want to take a moment to thank you all for your continued patience, love and support. It means the world to James and I; we are eternally grateful for you. 

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Old Fashioned Soda's

Well, The Mr. is back for another video! I was at our local bread store and they had a few different old fashioned soda pops, so I decided to grab them and do a fun little taste testing video! This has been one of my better ideas ... I think The Mr. would agree. We hope you enjoy our video! Don't forget to subscribe to our Blog & YouTube channel for more fun things! 

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April Showers Bring ... {Problems?}

Well, here I am again ... playing catch up! Let's get started right away because so much has happened lately! James and I have been super busy with traveling down to Utah a bunch, fixing some problems with our home and much more! 

If you read my post called Playing Catch Up you might know that The Mr. and I were having some problems with our septic system. Well, GOOD NEWS! We finally got it fixed the first of this month. Thanks to our wonderful friend and awesome Grandfather we were able to get it fixed very affordable! It is so lovely not having the stress of that over our heads. 

The day before they came to fix our septic system, they came to check things out. They opened it up looked in and made a plan. Shortly after they left I went outside and noticed Ollie Popsicle sitting on top of the cover. He looked so cute I had to snap a picture. (And apparently he likes the smell of poop ...)  

 Anyways, back to how they fixed it. Clearly you can see they had to dig a HUGE hole! My poor flowerbed and grass. Well, while digging they accidentally broke the waterline. Oops! Thankfully by doing so it was a HUGE blessing. So we got that replaced as well as our piping for our septic. 

So how was it fixed? Well, whoever put it in put it in backwards. Which ended up being okay. But they had my washing machine just going to the drain which couldn't hold all the water. So what they did was make it so my washer is hooked up to my septic. So they had to do a lot of work from the inside too. As you can see from the pictures. They also  redid all the piping on the outside too. (Bottom picture.) Thankfully it works like a gem now! It is awesome. Grateful for such awesome people in my life who are always there to help us in a pinch.

 We got our very first "farm" animal! We got ourselves three chickens. They are darling. We are thinking one might actually be a rooster which would be awesome! We have a few names picked out but we want to wait and see who is who for sure. I love the fact that they have little fuzzy feathered feet. It is adorable! 

James aunt and her family came to visit for their Spring break! It was a week packed full of fun things and a lot of new things to try. One of the first things we did together was we went to a restaurant in Pocatello called Buddy's. It is an Italian place with some of the most delicious food ever! And their salad dressing is to die for. James and I will for sure be going back (well, James will be going for the first time ..) 

After we ate we met James at the fun place to play some lazer tag, mini golf and of course hit up the arcade. It was so much fun and that was probably the best workout ever. Man lazer tag makes you worn out ha ha. 

One of the nights James aunt made a delicious Moroccan dish! It was a lot of fun to try something new. And of course we tried eating the Moroccan way! Which is eating with your hands. Now that is fun. Thanks Heidi for such yummy food! Oh and of course the great company. 

James and I headed down to Utah after such a busy week with James aunt. But it was well worth it. We got to see this lil' cutie! We attended her baby blessing. My brother did such a wonderful job! I sure do love my niece she is pretty darn cute. I love going down to Utah and being surrounded by my family especially the nieces and nephew! 

Once we got back from Utah it was time for the animals to have their yearly check-up and shots! They all were pretty bummed out about their future. I mean look at their faces. Needless to say, the cats were pretty darn mad at me! Miss Maggie lucked out though. She wasn't due yet for her shots. Lucky dog! 

And lastly! Yesterday was Easter! So Happy [late] Easter to you all! We had a wonderful time spending time with family and each other. Of course the bunny visited Maggie and brought her some new tennis balls. She LOVES them! She was so excited so we decided to take them outside and play a little fetch and enjoy the sun and warm weather. Good thing we did ... because it is poring rain today! 


March Freebie Haul!

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All About Disney Movie Rewards!

Many of you know I am OBSESSED with Disney Movie Rewards! (DMR) It is a great perk from Disney for buying their movies. James and I love movies especially Disney movies. We are constantly buying many so why not reap the benefits? And who knows.. we might score that movie we have always wanted for FREE! In fact we actually have; The Lone Ranger, Toy Story and The Rookie, PLUS many, many more. Not only are we able to score awesome movies, we have actually gotten a few other really neat things. Like $5.00 off coupons, gift-cards, toys, pins, etc. Watch the video below to see some of the awesome things James and I have been able to score! 

(My most favorite is the Mystery Movie Reward! Because you don't know what you are getting until you get that brown package! We have scored some awesome movies!)  Watch my UN-boxing video below.

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There is HOPE - Guest Post With Ashlynn & Coby

Today's post is very special! I got in contact with Coby and Ashlynn Mitchell about a month ago after they started following me on Instagram and I looked over their stuff and started following their story. They inspired me and I have loved being apart of their journey. Now while James and I personally can't relate to their situation, we can relate to the love that they have for each other and that is what inspired me. Like I said before I got in contact with Ashlynn about a month ago after I got thinking maybe someone who reads our blog might benefit from hearing their story. I was thrilled when Ashlynn and Coby agreed to share their story with The Mr. & The Mrs. Blog and answer a few questions. You are probably like .. well, what is their story? Therefore I think it is time I let Ashlynn and Coby take it from here. 
Coby and Ashlynn celebrated 17 years of marriage in January of 2017. It was a very happy celebration and definitely their best yet as they have put in countless hours to heal & make change for the better. They have 2 little girls that took them 8 years to get and both work from home. Ashlynn mentors those seeing healthy changes in fitness and nutrition while Coby mentors those seeking true recovery from addiction. They live in Orem, Utah and run a fitness/nutrition business and also a marriage and relationship business ... both with the sole reason to give HOPE.

Their marriage started on a lie & was built on a rocky foundation. Sure there were moments, even years of bliss where they were truly happy. Traveling the world, living successful careers & even building their dream home ... but that is because they weren't dealing with core issues. If you don't talk about it, it goes away right?!? I wish, we both do but it doesn't work that way unfortunately. Life got hard around year 12 of marriage and not having skills to cope in a healthy way things when down fast. In 2014 recovery from sex addiction and betrayal trauma began and has continued with sharing of their journey each day. Their message is to let others know there is more than just surviving - we are meant to THRIVE and there are so many resources to help us find that. 

Coby's Story:

Porn was my great thief of self worth for more than 28 years.  I was 38 years old when, for the first time in my life, I said out loud to my wife, “I’m proud of who I am.”  With tears in my eyes I reflected on the painful lies, deceit and heartache I inflicted on myself and my wife.  That moment I realized I could not have been more free of shame, grateful and full of hope for the future.
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Ashlynn's Story:

For most of my 16 year marriage I believed the lies I was told and that replayed in my head. I believed I was not enough and never would be emotionally or physically. I believed that my marriage had hard moments because I was a jerk, quick to anger, a prude and unforgiving. If only I was … then we’d be happier. I suspected his behaviors our first month of marriage and pulled back. I lost trust in his actions and words. I didn’t understand why the man I married chose to seek other women over the one right in front of his face. I didn’t understand, and nor did he that it was an addiction that could not be cured by marriage, religion or prayer alone. 
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What are some of the feelings you had & how did you two work through this?

Starting recovery after years of isolation and lies sounds like it may have been a relief but quite honestly it was really hard. Insurance didn't cover the cost at all and we had already spent thousands on therapy that hadn't worked for us. We took one giant step and invested in our marriage at Addo Recovery in Lindon, Utah. Just weeks later Coby was laid off from his job and we had to make a choice to continue specialized therapy or to give up. We continued and had faith that this was going to work for us. Then the bomb dropped with FULL disclosure and we felt very unsure what we would do. Would we keep trying, separate, divorce? We opted for an in-house separation and continued to work recovery but in a very individualized way. Never couples therapy, just put our heads down and did the really hard work to not only heal but to find empathy for each other and the love that had been lost. It was 8 months before we realized that staying together was a very REAL option. Seeing each other working recovery every.single.day was life changing for us. 

What is some advice you would like to give?

We are not meant to go through life fighting for more alone. We shared because our friend shared on social media years ago and it not only changed our lives but created a better life! If you are struggling in ANY WAY reach out! Reach out to someone you feel safe with, ask for help, and seek professional help. There is so much light and knowledge here on the earth right now you can get very specialized help. Our story may be different than yours but if you go into making change with the attitude that this is for YOU and no one else, find someone to be accountable to and find a professional to teach you the skills to KEEP GOING then your life will certainly change!

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